What is consent? And why it matters for sex
VideoInno & PBae
PBae: Mmm that feels... Wow!
Inno: I’ve got more where that came from. Can I show you?
PBae: Sure. Why are you asking?
Inno : I’ am just checking if you’ are okay with that…
PBae: Er, yeah! Feels kinda nice….
Inno: You’re not sure?
PBae: I’m sure I love you.
Inno: I love you too. But you don’t have to agree to have sex just because you love me.
PBae: So, if I said no, you wouldn’t get annoyed?
Inno: Why would I get annoyed? It’s your body.
PBae: So I could say no, even if you are getting hot?
Inno: Definitely at the hot moments. That’s the time when people get carried away and take things too far… Anyway, where were we…
PBae: You were touching me there… but let’s try something else
Inno: But I thought you liked it…
PBae: I did, but it was too much. Can I try touching you?
Inno: Sure. Mmm… Ooh, feels good…
PBae: Mmm… how about this?
Inno: Ow! No, I’m not into that. I don’t want anyone going up there.
PBae: Why not? I thought guys like it there. My last boyfriend…
Inno: I’m not your last boyfriend! Maybe he gave his consent to go up there, but I don’t!
PBae: What was that word you just used? Con-what?
Inno: Con-sent. It means “agreement” or “permission”. Can we get on with this please?
PBae: No, I don’t “consent”! I want to know more. How does it work?
Inno: [sigh] OK, so consent means you’re OK with what’s happening.
PBae: What if I’m not OK with it?
Inno: You can tap out. If you don’t consent to whatever he is doing, your lover should accept that and not force anything. Even a someone married can hold back and not give consent to their husband or wife if they want. It basically means that no one can force you to do something you don’t want to do. If they do, it becomes like rape. Actually, it is rape.
PBae: Wow. Good to know. What about a guy? Could a guy not give consent?
Inno: Yeah guys, girls consent is for everybody.
PBae: I think I could get any guy to consent to doing it with me.
Inno: You rate yourself pretty highly, huh? How? Come on, show me.
PBae: Well first I would do this…
Inno: Oooh!
PBae: And then I would touch him here…
Inno: Aaah! I consent! I consent!
PBae: Aha! Now I know the real meaning of “consent”. Let’s do this!
Inno & PBae: Be In The KNOW
Inno and PBae are getting it on – but will talk of consent ruin the moment? Find out what consent is all about, why it matters and how it can make things a little more sexy.