Can I tell you what really turns me on?

Lots of us feel embarrassed talking about sex, especially with new partners. But everyone is different, and your partner may not know what makes you excited. That’s why it is important to let them know what feels good, and what doesn’t. The question above can be a good way to start this conversation. 

Having open conversations like this can really improve your sex life. It can also bring you closer as a couple. Try beginning with something positive by talking about something they already do that turns you on. Then ease into what you’d like to try or to change.  

Think of you and your partner as a team, working together against whatever is getting in the way of having great sex. No one person is the problem. And try to have this conversation when you are both feeling happy and relaxed, rather than in the heat of the moment when emotions may be running high.