Can we talk about how we can make things even hotter?

Sexual pleasure is one of the most natural and amazing things in life. And if you are in a relationship but the sex isn’t working for you or you think it could be better, it’s okay to say so.  

Asking the question above can be a good way to start the conversation. Another way is to say something positive like “I’ve been thinking about how much I like it when we…” or “It felt really hot when you…” before moving on to what it is you want to talk about. 

If your partner doesn’t want to talk about this straightaway it might be because they feel embarrassed or shy, even if they don’t act this way. Let them know that this is okay for now, but that you want to speak about this because you want to have an even better, hotter relationship with them. Say you will give them time to think about things and suggest talking about it another day.  

If your partner reacts angrily, think about why this might be. If they keep reacting badly when you bring up sex, or they keep refusing to have the conversation at all, it could be a sign you are in an unhealthy relationship.