Do you know why I find condoms sexy?

Talking about safer sex with partners can feel difficult. One way to go about this is to let them know how sexy you will find it if you feel listened to and safe. This can be a great way to raise the issue of safer sex, whether this is your long-term partner or more of a casual thing. 

And when it comes to using condoms and lubricants, there are lots things you can do to make them a fun part of foreplay. Describing these things in advance can be a real turn-on. 

Once you have agreed what kind of safer sex you are going to have, get practical with the details and make sure the responsibility is shared. Discuss who will be responsible for getting the condoms, for example, or arranging appointments for a sexual health check-up. 

Whatever you discuss, remember that your partner should respect your wishes, even if you have not had safer sex with them in the past.