What time of day do you most like to have sex?

It is important to be able to speak openly and honestly with your partner about what you both enjoy and don’t enjoy when it comes to sex. But sometimes it can feel too big and embarrassing a topic to raise. One way to open up the conversation can be to ask a less direct question, like what time of day they most like to have sex. Then you could ask them what they most enjoy about having sex.  

When you have listened to their answer, tell them if this is something you like as well. Then move the conversation on to what your favourite sexual things are. This could sound like: “I find it so sexy when we…, and wondered how you feel about trying…?”  

You may find that you share some common ground on the things that turn you both on and make you feel good, and that’s great.  

Remember that, just because you tell your partner what turns you on, they do not have to say yes to doing it. Both you and your partner have the right to say no to anything either of you is uncomfortable with.